We tend to think the joy in the motherhood era is all about just being a mom and feel blessed for having our kids. Well, that is great, but we also need to ALWAYS remember our individualism. Responsibilities and to-do lists are part of the motherhood deal, but balance is crucial in this journey. Taking the time to focus on ourselves is a must. Otherwise, we will burn ourselves out. We need to re-energize our minds, bodies, and souls. And for that, there is no better medicine than taking time to do something that brings us joy and happiness. Here my top three tips to get you started.
Joy and happiness are for free.
There is no need to waste any money looking for something to bring us joy or happiness. Yes, sometimes you will want to join some type of class or membership. But the truth is, the internet is a world of free endless possibilities:
- If you’re going to learn a new skill, whatever that might be, turn on YouTube and look for those channels interesting to you.
- If you want to socialize more, turn to Facebook and search for those groups sharing your same interests.
- If you just want to have a date night with your significant other or a lady’s night. There are so many options that don’t require spending a lot of money. Here is a post of some of the activities I did last February.
- My favorite…if you just want to ground with nature, then take a hike! Nothing better than wandering in the wilderness, breathing fresh air, and listening to Mother Earth.
It is OK to do nothing.
In reality, joy and happiness come in many forms. There is a preference for having a hobby to distract our minds while learning something new and being productive. Well, we don’t have to be productive all the time. It is OK to take a break and DO NOTHING. I know sometimes it’s hard to stay still and not being some kind of industrial production machine line, but we deserve a time to just close our eyes and think about a big lot of nothing. If this brings you joy and happiness, then go for it. I sure do!
ME time, not Theirs nor Ours.
This time is for YOU, no one else. Not your significant other or kids or neighbor or friend. You are in power of what to do with your time. If you want to decline an invitation because you already scheduled ME time, then know that it is ok. If you’re going to do something that you like, then do so. Me time is not for doing something somebody else wants. It is ok to say no.
We deserve joy and happiness as individuals. No guilt or mommy shame is valid here. Remember that we are moms and individuals. We get tired, we struggle, we love, we are unique, and we are US. Find your core, bring joy to your individualism and embrace your happiness.
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